Your vow exchange truly is the heart of the ceremony, capturing the essence of your commitment and love for each other. Whether you choose to share these promises privately or in front of your loved ones, the moment is both deeply personal and profoundly meaningful. By crafting original vows, you’re not only honoring your unique relationship but also creating a treasured memory that will resonate throughout your marriage.

Keepsake vow booklets are a wonderful idea—they add a personal touch and ensure that your words are preserved for years to come. And having handkerchiefs on hand is a thoughtful gesture; the emotional weight of this moment often brings out tears of joy and love. This attention to detail will undoubtedly make your vow exchange a memorable and cherished part of your wedding day. I can bring both of these to your ceremony.

Many couples have expressed a desire to write their own vows to one another, but need guidance with creating them. Here’s some suggestions:

1. Say “I love you.” You can start and/or end with this sentiment

2. Proclaim that you’ll be there no matter what. All relationships experience good times and challenging ones. Declare your intent to get through the hard times together.

3. Make promises to each other.

4. Include a short touching or funny story about your love. Recounting stories about how knew your partner was “the one”, laugh out loud accounts of humorous experiences, or an inspiring narrative about overcoming a challenging time makes your ceremony nore personal and reflective of your unique love.

5. Keep your vows to no more than 200 words. If you have more to share you can create a love letter to read the night before your ceremony, or that morning. I offer a special component that includes your bringing a special container that you can put your vows and love letter into. Some couples use a wine box with a special bottle of wine in it. You keep this container closed until your first anniversary, then you open the box and read your vows/love story and replace these with new ones. This will become a time capsule of your marriage.

I hope this helps you to overcome any “writers block” or being simply overwhelmed with where to start. I’m here to help if you hire me to perform your ceremony!